Modern Romanticism

“Love can trap. Love can smother. Even when we are outside the presence of whomever we devoted ourselves to, we are remembering them. Even when we are avoiding it, we might come to remember it. We are recalling love, during grief, being the days when we don’t want to love.”

– Modern Romanticism

While in love, we are indeed inside of something. It is always somewhere we cannot define, involving feelings we cannot describe with accuracy. Why? It’s because love isn’t what we are feeling. In love, inside of its realm, we are feeling what someone else is feeling. That’s must be the reason why we cannot define it. It’s because we cannot define that other person, because their meaning is all meanings. If we were able to define what they mean, we would be confining them, instead of ourselves, in love. We would be limiting their meaning to us. Therefore, to choose to love, we cannot do this. We cannot choose what we were blinded in doing. In love, we do this or that, without a direct reason. In love, we do this or that, without explanation, because in love, we are deciding on instinct. Without approval, it happens. Without confirmation, it occurs.

When others speak of love as a choice, it can be considered a confusion with respect or with reality. A relationship is a reality. It’s everything real of those emotions that we, ourselves, define as a conflict with love. Our emotions conflict with what we are feeling from someone else. As they idealize us, we are represented to them as imperfect. As we idealize them, the same occurs.

To a choice, we might have started something with intention involved. Also, to a choice, we might intend to escape something. Some might intend to escape a relationship, though not memories. Should guilt ever surface for what that person ran from, there begins a haunt. They’ve initiated an inward haunting. Again, no choice had been involved, because memories are a consequence of a choice to start a relationship. A relationship is to a cause as love is to its effect. We’ll avoid, until we might be brought back to them to reconcile. That’s because of what we could not control. Though, what relationship could be reforged without the other also being drawn back to it? It’s to that love that pulled them close, to begin with. It had engrained memories to be eternal. It remains with love to pull them close, once more.

Some cheat, some lie, deceive, and make room for themselves. If love should trap someone, it’s with deception that there shows a person wanting their image in isolation. It is through their avoidance, to do this. Avoidance of what? Of the truth, taking place inside those memories. They’ll feel guilt, if they’ve loved. They’ll be without remorse, if they’ve never allowed themselves to be imprisoned by empathy. As empathy is no different than love, because we are feeling another’s emotions, not our own, an act of avoidance is an attempt to escape that prison. Though, in love, we return to that prison because we must face consequence.