Modern Romanticism

If we are honest to another whom we have come to know, we will speak what’s needed to be said. Needed, not wanted, because lies might have been all they have heard. Lies are always aligned with repetition because they will not ever present quality to a life. A life receives quality through its growth and development, while deception will stagnant that same life. While it also true that a person needs rest, as rest is a form of stagnation, it is a rest that should have been earned. For when a person works, they are undertaking a task for the sake of this growth and development. Would they be stagnant out of lacking motivation or even depression, that is when deception has taken hold.

Does a person have an excuse to not move? Does a person have an excuse to die, if depression were to be what tells them to not live? A dose of honesty would tell this person what they need to know. Kindness cannot be of it, without risking another lie and further repetition. Indeed, depression can take hold of a person who has resolved their current state of life to a repeated and mindless cycle. Each day is the same and holds nothing new. That is their stagnation and a lack of further development and exploration of their life and other potentials.

If someone should tell them what they need to know, it would have to come from someone who has taken the time and patience to understand this individual. We would all be ignorant to assume that all depressed individuals have the same reasons for their stagnation. That ignorance goes further to believe that the cure to their depression would also be the same. An individual is complex. Though, to categorize those who deal with their sloth behaviors is only for the purpose of discovering a quick and convenient solution. Then, it would be further deception to want for convenience to all who deal with the problem, though do not have the same reasons. It would be a marketing of a drug, perhaps, or a “universal therapy” that never considers the individual. For the only person who could understand the complexities of an individual is another individual.

It always takes time and patience to gather information. To understand it in full requires even more patience. Convenience does not have its place here. Speaking honesty to a person is, for the stagnant one, an inconvenience at times. That’s because they want to be told what they want to hear, not what’s needed for them to hear. Convenience and necessity are opposites and they have nothing in common. The former is deceitful, unlike the latter, and only one of them adheres to what the individual needs out of spending the time to become aware of that.

We could be kind to the stagnant, depressed person who has led a life of repetition and lacking development. We could be, though would they know that as any different than how they’ve treated themselves? Between us lying to them or them lying to themselves, our awareness should extend to knowing the latter before we grant our wisdom. We ought to know what they think of themselves before we recognize what’s meant to be given the title of “wisdom”. As wisdom is only ever itself when it has been born out of growth and development, granting it to the stagnated individual will illustrate an example. It is an example of what growth and development looks like. Though, for that to be illustrated, our only “kindness” is to present to them the path, relate our history of bettering ourselves in growth and development to the possibility for them to mimic that, but we cannot do the work for them. Our only “kindness”, as it was to present a path and illustrate for them a better outcome, is for them to look back on what we showed to them as it benefited them in the long-term.